by becoming a g.salon member, our agreement is that i keep it fresh & true. it won't always be the same or done in the same way but it'll always be rooted in a new way of creating & connecting———
some gems to look forward to .::
your sanctuary of re-membrance 🌀
a deep belief of mine is that, to make the best of anything takes time, especially when that some thing is heavily reliant on the quality of relationships you build. for sivan, owner of afriek, success is tied to how well she and her team can hold space for difference.
sivan started afriek in 2013 and ever since i discovered her brand, i continue to be inspired by the way she constantly reinvents her self in the way she approaches the world of business.
here, a conversation on the gospel truth of the song 'when you believe' by mariah carey and whitney houston, learning to focus on the wins and the impact of meditation. the gems she dropped left me feeling like, indeed, we are moving mountains long before we know we can.
i think i have a pretty masculine approach to getting things done. pushing hard, making things happen, being really confident in what needs to be done and how it needs to be done which i feel i've always had more of than feminine energy. both naturally and also because of what was required as a business owner. you look at the people who support you, who might be men who do it according to their logic which is driven by things like, how much money is there? structure, deadlines– all very calculative. at some point i was focused on getting really good at that because i think it's necessary. but one thing i've learned recently, which brings out the more feminine part of me, and which is super essential in business, is the intuition and connectedness with the heart that allows for running an intuitive business. i see that as a super power— really listening to myself and giving myself the space, not rushing for the deadline but really saying, let me take a step back. how am i feeling, what's the direction i need to go in and then setting goals by using the mind as a tool & the heart as the guide.
this is my most important pursuit– seeing how i can marry the two in a loving relationship while being respectful to each other with the context of upbringing and history. i'm focusing especially on the listening part. for me , that's how i see this business— like an experiment of how can we actually do it in the right way? i'm constantly confronted with new things where i'm not understanding what my team is saying or vice versa. how i'm doing this is through a lot of conversations because it goes beyond just culture, it's also about managing different personalities, similar to differences any relationship would have. in regards to the distance- the internet is a great thing. whatsapp saved me– it came around the time we were starting so that was really amazing. it makes it easy for me to stay connected to how things are going. i'm looking into ways i can exploit that more because now i'm working with people from different places like lagos, netherlands and the uk. it's beautiful to see what you can do working in this way while still creating a culture of business.
it's the quote i have on my phone- you will never influence the world by trying to act like it so shine your differences. 'experts' don't confuse me anymore. they can inspire me and sometimes i follow their advice but if it doesn't make sense or if it feels off then i do it my way.
i call it homework. silent meditation- which i wish i did more of. i have a guided meditation that i just brainwash myself with. i like the idea of brainwashing because i think we've been brainwashed anyway, so better to be brainwashed into the head space you want to be in. i have one tool that i swear by, which is writing my success– it's really powerful. what it's taught me, and what i see as truth is that we are brainwashed to look only at our mistakes and only at what is wrong and if you are stuck in a place where you do things wrong all the time, especially when you're running a business, where there's always room to improve and you're learning new things constantly, it means that you're also failing constantly and you can't create powerfully from that space. it's very hard to trust yourself, so writing down your successes every day is very empowering because you're brainwashing yourself to think of things you do right and it shows you that you can either beat yourself up about what you didn't get right or you can focus on the things you achieved. it's a beautiful way of seeing the mistakes.
on space that makes you feel calm|
nicely designed, thought-through coffee shops
a place with a lot of sunlight. i'm thinking of white wavy curtains in the living room with the sun coming through
for intimate gatherings|
a tent with pillows and candle light
for sacred practice|
crystals for me make a space feel more intentional and sacred.