finding meaning in the ordinary


nicole ansoni is the owner of inka, kigali’s first & only steakhouse. she’s cultivated a space that captures all of the elements that culminate an experience that satisfies the senses: what we smell at the table, what we see when we look around, the sounds that our ears intercept— are all a supporting act in the quality of what we taste.

she tells her entrepreneurial journey with a sense of confidence & calmness that remind us that vulnerability is the string that holds the pearls of strength, perseverance & connection.

below, a conversation on celebrating others as a way to remind ourselves of what really matters & how loving ourselves is the surest way to stay grounded in our purpose.

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would you open a restaurant again?

now that I’ve learned so much, i wouldn’t do it the same way but I would do it again. it’s the best thing i’ve ever done. i really felt that inka was something kigali needed whether it was me or someone else, & that’s why i did it. you get up every day with new energy, feeling like ‘yeah, i can do it’ but sometimes you feel depleted at the end of the day but you have to keep taking the baby steps to start seeing things get better.

one of the things i’m unlearning this season is what success looks & feels like. you’re an entrepreneur who calls the shots on your time & hustle. how do you stay grounded in your purpose in a world that glorifies the rat race?

if you’re not taught at home to be secure in yourself, it’s tough. you have to love yourself & if you’re secure in yourself, you can love everybody else & be happy for people. it doesn’t take anything from you, in fact, it enriches you to know people who are living their truth or who are joyful & happy to share their experience—that’s amazing. those are the people you want around you in order to stay grounded.

what’s something about your job that people will be really surprised that you have to do?

everything. it’s really part of the job. i wouldn’t advice anyone to own a salon if they don’t like to do hair. stay in something that you understand & are good at because you want to motivate your staff & make them feel like they’re a team, of which you are apart of. they have to know that you are here with them, it really makes a huge difference.

what are you most captivated by right now?

stories of perseverance. right now i’m really interested in the next steps for me & the business so it’s really about understanding people’s experience & reading about entrepreneurs who have done it. i’ve been reading a lot. i’m interested in the failures. It reveals two things; if you’re at this place, it means you overcame but how did it change you as a person? your management style? your vision? it’s different for everyone but there’s so much you can learn. i’m inspired by other people’s stories of perseverance, failures, self-doubt. how do you get beyond? what do you share, what do you not share with other people?

what fundamental tips would you give to aspiring entrepreneurs?

if you find yourself comparing, then you’ve missed the point.

what do you wish you had that you currently don’t?

knowing how to manage my time wisely. the reality is, part of being an owner is being able to strategize. at some point, you have to figure out a way to maintain while adding more.

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